thoughts on a friday night

so, i have been parenting for 1 month and 20 days.

it was a big jump from single to attached, from darling dear's wife to junior's mommy.
it was tough - from learning to accept, to knowing them by heart, to be able to love, to everything else.

i might not be the best wife and mommy around, i might had lose my direction in the midst of all these,
but, i'm glad i'm still in this :)

angel is a pillow

papa-ang learnt that when junior is sleepy and crying crankily, it is just informing him that she wants her mommy.

counting down to another happy family day

the thing why i love carrier to a pram: keeping junior close to my heart - literally.

my life as mommy

one thing that parenting ever taught me,
to cry, angry, laugh and love at the same time :)))

to protect junior's brain, turn off the tv

By Brandon Keim, wired.com

A decade ago, the American Academy of Pediatrics suggested that parents limit TV consumption by children under two years of age. The recommendations were based as much on common sense as science, because studies of media consumption and infant development were themselves in their infancy.

The research has finally grown up. And though it’s still ongoing, it’s mature enough for the AAP to release a new, science-heavy policy statement on babies watching television, videos or any other passive media form.

Their verdict: It’s not good, and probably bad.

Media, whether playing in the background or designed explicitly as an infant educational tool, has "potentially negative effects and no known positive effects for children younger than 2 years,” concluded the AAP’s report, released Oct. 18 at the Academy’s annual meeting in Boston and scheduled for November publication in the journal Pediatrics. “Although infant/toddler programming might be entertaining, it should not be marketed as or presumed by parents to be educational.”

Since the AAP made its original recommendations in 1999, passive entertainment screens—televisions, DVD players, computers streaming video—have become ubiquitous, and the average 12-month-old gets between one and two hours of screen time per day. (Interactive screens, such as iPads and other tablets, are considered in the new recommendations.) The 0- to 2-year age group has become a prime target for commercial educational programming, often used by parents convinced that it’s beneficial.

As screens proliferated, so did research. “There have been about 50 studies that have come out on media use by children in this age group between 1999 and now,” said Ari Brown, a pediatrician and member of the AAP committee that wrote the new report.

Those studies have found that children don’t really understand what’s happening on a screen until they’re about 2 years old. Once they do, media can be good for them, but until then television is essentially a mesmerizing, glowing box.

Used at night, TV might help kids fall asleep, but that appears to come at a delayed cost of subsequent sleep disturbances and irregularities. While the result of TV-induced sleep problems hasn’t been directly studied, poor sleep in infants is generally linked to problems with mood, behavior and learning.

At other times, media consumption comes with opportunity costs, foremost among them the silence of parents. “While television is on, there’s less talking, and talk time is very important in language development,” said Brown.

Three studies since 1999 have tracked educational television use and language development, and they found a link between increased TV time and developmental delays. Whether that’s a cause or effect—parents who leave kids in front of televisions might simply be poor teachers—isn’t clear, nor are the long-term effects, but the AAP called the findings “concerning.” In the same vein, there may also be a link to attention problems.

Even when media plays in the background, it distracts babies from play, an activity that is known to have deep developmental benefits. And for parents who use media to carve out a few precious, necessary free minutes in busy schedules, Brown recommended letting kids entertain themselves.

“We know you can’t spend 24 hours a day reading to your child and playing with them. That’s okay. What’s also okay is your child playing independently,” she said. “That’s valuable time. They’re problem-solving. They’re using their imagination, thinking creatively and entertaining themselves.”

As for iPads and other kid-friendly interactive computing devices, Brown said research has barely started, much less come to conclusions. But she counseled skepticism of promotional claims, which have been made with some of the same zeal as products of now-dubious standing, such as the controversial Baby Einstein videos.

“The way these kids’ programs came out was, ‘These are really educational! They’re going to help your kids learn!’ Well that’s great, but prove it. Show me the science,” Brown said. “I don’t have a problem with touch screens, and they’re not necessarily bad. But we need to understand how this affects kids.”

we have decided that it is important to develop good habits since the day she was born. it is essential to protect her brain, but it is more important to not let her become a couch potato. in other words, AAP guidelines are going to be on the top of our list. try.

as working parents, it is gonna be more convenient to have junior place in front of the tv or ipad. but as junior's parents, i believe it's most important to build a understanding relationship with her. in other words, we need to talk to her, play with her, cuddle her and the list goes on, and when we are lucky, junior tireds out faster than us!

yes, you can say that i am being sucha ordinary follower and darling dear is such an old school. but, the relationship we had built with junior doesn't come overnight. it takes a lot. and sometimes, fate plays a part too. so, this is one of the reason why i have been contemplating about moving back to the states for another two years. but, we will see.

tv or no tv,
it's still too soon to tell.